I'm finding myself really affected by the depression and despair in the community around me. Almost wishing we had not moved here in the first place. But then I know that this chaos and conflict can be found anywhere.
How do you find words when you are faced with completely disrespectful parenting out in the public? When you look into that child's eyes and see that inside they have no self worth, that the constant barrage of insults from their "parents" has assured that. How do you walk away and forget about that child? How do you not let it weigh you down for the rest of your week?
What do you do when you know a woman is in an abusive controlling relationship and her kids are suffering? Do you keep silent-afraid of offending her or making the situation worse or do you act-and hope to god she doesn't find her way back to him.
I listened to a small school child crying outside his classroom (the school backs onto our backyard) for at least 30mins last week. Where is the compassion, the kindness, not to mention the duty of care? No child, no matter how disruptive in the classroom deserves this kind of treatment.
I'm so sick of women and children being treated as second class citizens. I am crushed whenever I see parents subscribing to not only detached but downright abusive parenting. I am struggling to carry this heavy head and heart when there is no sight of hope in this sad little community of mine.
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My heart hurts just reading your touching questions. It is wrong that people should suffer like this, especially children. I can see why you're so upset.
There aren't any easy answers I know of. These kinds of situations SHOULD tug at our hearts. I know many people who express these feelings. If enough of us care enough to discuss reasonable responses and possible ways to help ... that's what will make a difference. Bit by bit. I bet lots of volunteer groups to help people have been started by someone having a heavy heart ...
Speaking as one who's been there, long ago ... If you know of a particular person in an abusive (or controlling) relationship, I'd say just be a friend, hope and pray that she'll gather the confidence and courage to make a choice. Nobody confronted me directly, but just knowing I had the love and support of friends and family allowed me to take the daunting steps I had to at the time. Hopefully she'll see the choices she has, where perhaps she can't yet see any. If it's extreme, perhaps call a women's shelter or Lifeline, and ask their advice.
You have a beautiful heart. I hope your community does improve, and you do find some peace. Keep shining your light!
Love, Vanessa
You know, I often feel the same way about this place. Its hard, I know. There is a lot I could say about it but won't here. I will chat with you in person when we meet next. As for the little boy who was crying I would have hugged him, I have done it before at that school. Hate to see a child in distress. grrrr
(((HUGS))) I have a hectic few days coming up but am pretty free next week. We had planned on trying to organise a local meet along the lake this week, but I am getting visitors to stay tomorrow who was not expecting AND its Gem's 18th this Friday so ran out of time. Will aim for early next week instead.
Try to keep smiling lovely! mwah xoxox
Great words of wisdom as always women xxx
Hope to catch up with you soon K
{{HUGS}}
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